In my blog post, 25 Things About Me, I mentioned a little bit of how I met my Farmer. I thought I would share a bit more of our story as it was five years ago today when we went on our first date.
Let’s start from the beginning. It was a Friday night in October when I was chatting with my mom on the phone. She asked me what my big plans were for my Friday night. I told her I was laying on the couch with Charlie and with a bottle of wine about to watch a movie. She said to ‘You’re a loser. You should go out with your friends and have some fun. Maybe you could get a date or something!’ I know what you’re thinking… ouch… At the time my nickname was Old Maid, so calling me a loser really wasn’t too far from the truth. š
The next Friday night came around and there I was again in the same place. I started thinking about what my mom had said the previous and before you know it I was half a bottle in, watching my favourite romantic comedy, feeling sorry for myself while making an online dating profile.
This was a first for me. I had heard all of the horror stories and saw all of the bad memes about online dating. So, I did what anyone in this situation would do – I wrote basically nothing on my profile and didn’t post a picture. I wrote about how much I loved coffee, my dog, and New Years Eve (the day, not the movie). I started looking around at my potential suitors and received a few not so PG messages. It basically was turning out to be a disaster.
I was about to give up when I came across a profile with the headline ‘The 10 Benefits of Cuddling’. I started reading this and found myself laughing out loud. This guy was funny and judging by his photo he wasn’t bad to look at either. So I gathered up the courage and messaged this fella. I spoke with him for a few days and the next thing you know we were going on a date. This fella was my Farmer and that was 5 years ago.
We went to a small lounge in a local hotel (where we later had our wedding reception) for a drink and chatted for hours. A couple of days later we went for coffee where he spilled half of his hot chocolate down his coat. He was rather embarrassed, I thought it was cute. The next day he was leaving for a month to go on vacation. I’ll admit, I was sad. I thought I wouldn’t hear from him until he got back, but we ended up texting the whole time he was away. He came back on a Thursday evening and asked to hang out. I was so flattered that he wanted to see me the night he returned, but looking back on it I think he just was using me for my cable TV to watch Jersey Shore. Is that show even on still?… He walked through the door and handed me a present… for Charlie. I think at the point I knew I really liked him.
We went out a couple of more times in the weeks to follow. I was leaving to spend Christmas with my aunt down in Palm Springs. While we were out one night looking at Christmas lights, we talked about my trip and how excited I was for it. The conversation somehow ended up with him booking a ticket to spend a week down in Palm Springs with me. You can imagine the phone call to my aunt… “Hey, would it be okay if a random stranger I met on the internet came to stay with us?”. Though, that’s not how the convo went at all. You see, I was mortified to tell anyone I found my Farmer on the internet for a long time. This was before Tinder was a thing or at least the norm of meeting people. So when anyone would ask how we met I would tell them we had a mutual friend.
Let’s fast forward to February 2016. I was working on a Friday afternoon when I got a text from my Farmer asking if he could take me out for an early Valentines Day dinner. I’m not a big fan of Valentines Day festivities so I said that would be fine. He showed up to my house in a tie with flowers. At that point I had to change out of my lulu’s and sweatshirt into something a bit fancier. We went to a nice restaurant and had a lovely dinner. When the waiter asked if we wanted desert the Farmer said no just the cheque. He told me he thought we could go get movie popcorn and go home and watch a movie. A man after my own heart I tell ya!
We got home and I was about to turn Netflix on when he said that he brought a movie for us to watch. He popped it in the DVD player and pressed play. Serendipity, my favourite movie. When it ended I was almost asleep on the couch when he handed me a cute gift box and said Happy Valentine’s Day. I opened the box and inside was a single rose and a frosted bottle. For a moment, I thought he bought me a bottle of Vodka… But then I saw there was a letter in the bottle. I opened it up and started to read this lovely letter. When I was done and wiped my tears away, the Farmer was down on one knee and asked me to marry him. Let me tell you, the ugly cry was in full swing at that point. I of course said yes! I then had to try to catch my breath and told him I had to tell him something. His eyes got a little big, he looked worried about what on earth I had to tell him at this moment.
I wanted to tell him something that was blowing my mind, something that I had never told him before. I told him that the night I made my online dating profile while drinking wine, watching a movie and feeling sorry for myself… Well, the movie I was watching was Serendipity. What a happy coincidence hey?
Looking back on the last five years makes me realize that we have gone through a lot individually and as a couple. It has not always been easy. We have had our struggles that’s for sure. But we have also had some of the best times together. And I look forward to many many more with my love, my Farmer.
Thanks for reading our story. Tell me about your story! How did you meet your partner? Where did you go on your first date? Can’t wait to hear from you.
Much love,
K.
This blurry selfie was the first picture we ever took together at the Mandalay Bay Aquarium in Las Vegas.